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24: Is Ashkenazi Dating Sephardi Interracial? 👱🏻♂️👩🏽🦰 /🧔🏽👱🏻♀️
The NTS crew (now only IJ 😁/☹️) has Guest Hosts Lia, Page and Fefe on to discuss Sephardic and Ashkenazi dating. Also a special message from Avery. 👱🏼♂️🧔👧👩🏻🦱🎙 🎧 1) Are there really barriers? 2) Identifying the cultures 3) Experiences with the interracial dating 4) What it’s like to date Sephardic 5) What it’s like to date Ashkenazi 6) is it always better to stay with the culture that you grew up with or can there be positives to dating outside your culture cubicle: I.e better pesach minhagim less wait time between meat n dairy lol 7) Does one group have it easier than the other when it comes to dating 8) How do you comment on their culture without criticizing them? 9) Why always giving the benefit of the doubt will help reduce the barrier 10) Getting over fear of being judged by family/friends 11) Determining how to "run" your house in a way that makes both sides happy 12) When is it right to open yourself up to new cultural practices (Food, davening, weddings) 13) Is it worth crossing the divide despite the chaos that relationships may incur 14) When you know they are just not willing to give in enough to make you feel comfortable 15) Sterotyping - Overprotective ashkenazi mother- Tyrannical Sephardic father 16) Areas that you won’t be able to make compromises on ———--
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Conversation do’s and dont’s
The NTS Bros host Blair & Serena, two young daters who have a lot to say. Are there conversations you should avoid? Things that need to be addressed? 1) Serious matters to be discussed 2) Girls are usually more submissive when it comes to expressing there opinion on something (& even guys) 3) I don’t know how to tell you this, but I listen to Goyishe music!! 4) Avoid Discussing who you dated and why it ended, Especially in the begging 5) Real life preferences like Aliyah, how many kids, etc.. 6) Controversial things: Politics 7) If you want to be more frum 8) if you want to be more modern 9) When to compliment the person 10) You look so beautiful 11) There’s an issue in my family I need to tell you about 12) Do you go to Minyan 3 times a day? 13) I don’t daven with a minyan 14) Can you dress better? Have you listened to NTS Ep 21!! Haha 15) I am falling in love with you 16) Finances 17) I hate Rabbis, shadchanim and all ‘em people I shouldn’t maybe be hating BTW 18) I’m not sure if I want to cover my hair 19) Lashon Hara 20) Places, travel and adventure 21) Don’t prolong things 22) Rule breaking and law breaking https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-23-conversation-dos-and-donts/id1479217367?i=1000479175394 --- This episode is sponsored by · Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew: Former Olympic Gymnast Shawn Johnson and NFL player Andrew East sit down to share their most vulnerable sides and open up like they never have before. https://open.spotify.com/show/7aGLm9HYn9mEyVr1FDzrpa?si=bgb4jh_nTyGiIabdk8BD8g Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support Looking back after it all ended
The podcast crew brings on a married couple, one party who dated for many years and one who dated for a little bit. Now that they are married we discuss how hard dating was and what we can do to try to make it easier. Here are some things we get to... 1) what would they change, What did they like? 2) Are we looking for reasons why the date shouldn’t or didn’t work? 3) Can we persevere when being Shidduch downtrodden? 4) Are we seeing you many Shadchanim? 5) Rabbi Vs. The Shadchanit 6) What was the biggest struggle with Parents 7) what was the easiest of it all? 8) How did they know Vs when they were told 9) Shadchan experience 10) Family experience? 11) Real challenges singles face as relationship continues 12) What separated the person you married from others you dated 13) How to continue to see the light at the end of the tunnel 14) Lowest points of shidduch dating 15) Getting feedback from the shadchan or from the girl directly 16) It might have been inconsiderate, but I didn’t consider that guy to be inconsiderate https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-22-shidduch-system-survivors-the-newlyweds-take/id1479217367?i=1000477648337 21 Are girls judged more harshly for how they dress or don't dress up?
1) What should you avoid wearing? 2) If you wear tights are you really frum? 3) Smartest thing to wear? 4) If you don’t like how they dress? 5) Comfort clothing...what date #? 6) The Flatbush look? 5 Towns look? Out of Towns look?!! 7) When can he wear shorts? 8) When he doesn’t let you know it’s a casual date and you show up in a PradaHow is this 9) what happens to Khakis, Jeans & Pigtails? 10) The "Torah" takes on style attraction and getting dressed up (Tznius) 11) Should fashion attire matter for the resume picture? 12) Is it really a make or break? 13) You find their old instagram with “questionable photos” 14) insecurity if the other person dresses too well 15) When can she lighten up on the Tznius thing https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-21-call-her-hot-chani-when-she-wears-heels-hes-got/id1479217367?i=1000476472243 --- This episode is sponsored by · Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew: Former Olympic Gymnast Shawn Johnson and NFL player Andrew East sit down to share their most vulnerable sides and open up like they never have before. https://open.spotify.com/show/7aGLm9HYn9mEyVr1FDzrpa?si=bgb4jh_nTyGiIabdk8BD8g Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support 2 more singles join the Shidduch Podcast Crew to respond to the taking a break now, later or never? Are you thinking about Taking a break?
1. Should I take a break? 2. Benefits of taking a break 3. How long should a break be? 4. Wrong reasons for taking a break (partying, stressing over work, stressing over family) 5. When you are on a quarantine break 6. When you're on a cold streak and don't want to call it a break 7. Reviewing resumes during a break 8. Should you tell people you are just not dating now? 9: Does exiting a serious relationship lead you to a break 10. Jumping back in too early --- This episode is sponsored by · Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew: Former Olympic Gymnast Shawn Johnson and NFL player Andrew East sit down to share their most vulnerable sides and open up like they never have before. https://open.spotify.com/show/7aGLm9HYn9mEyVr1FDzrpa?si=bgb4jh_nTyGiIabdk8BD8g Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-20-is-breaking-bad-during-quarantine-taking-break/id1479217367?i=1000474844460 Dr. Rachael Schindler & Therapist Eli Weinstein joins the Shidduch Podcast Crew. Are you thinking about Taking a break?
1. Should I take a break? 2. Benefits of taking a break 3. How long should a break be? 4. Wrong reasons for taking a break (partying, stressing over work, stressing over family) 5. When you are on a quarantine break 6. When you're on a cold streak and don't want to call it a break 7. Reviewing resumes during a break 8. Should you tell people you are just not dating now? 9: Does exiting a serious relationship lead you to a break 10. Jumping back in too early --- This episode is sponsored by Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew: Former Olympic Gymnast Shawn Johnson and NFL player Andrew East sit down to share their most vulnerable sides and open up like they never have before. https://open.spotify.com/show/7aGLm9HYn9mEyVr1FDzrpa?si=bgb4jh_nTyGiIabdk8BD8g Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-19-is-breaking-bad-during-quarantine-taking/id1479217367?i=1000474128182 3 Singles Discuss there Shidduch dating experience while under quarantine. Zoom Dating isn’t new, thousands of singles have done FaceTimes before. But now we are all long distance dating with the COVID19 pandemic. After all said and done, will you both go your Separate Zoom ways? Or is it possible to maintain or start a relationship like this??
Many women think that guys have the pressure peeled off now, you don’t have to go to a certain restaurant, you don’t have to take them out on an expensive date or activity. Now people can actually meet each other without these formalities that may have plagued us from the beginning causing the “Shidduch Crisis”. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-18-zoom-dating-we-both-went-our-separate-zooms/id1479217367?i=1000472764028 Episode 17: My best friend is engaged - time to social distance? (w/ special a Coronavirus Dating)3/22/2020 My best friend’s engaged.... now what?
1. The difference between how guys and girls react and deal with it. 2. Reasons why its hard: can friendship be the same? Being single and healing from a breakup. 3. Letting go even though you love your BFF. 4. Recognizing your own feelings that come with this. 6. Life after they get married / learning how to remain close - is it possible? 7. Feelings on your friend for leaving you alone. 8. Hating their spouse, do you tell them? 9. Handling loneliness. 11. Eating, working or drinkng your way through your feelings. 12. Incorporating your friend and their spouse in your life (3rd wheel syndrome). 13. How involved you are in engagement/wedding plans 14. Family members using your friend as an example. 15. Now she wants to set you up with all her friends. This week's episode is sponsored by Audible http://www.audibletrial.com/NobodyTalksShidduchim --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-17-my-best-friend-is-engaged-time-to-social/id1479217367?i=1000468917177 1. What does it mean?
2. Is it a real thing or a nice idea we hold on too 2b. Reasons for the one that got away (why it happened) 3. What you could’ve done to save it 4. Reflecting on it 5. Any Regrets 6. Were you yourself 7. Seeking outside help 8. What would you tell them if you had a second chance 9. Going back to it (kinda ties in with revisiting) 10. Does it occur more or less when doing shidduchim 11. How to get past it, is it possible? 12. Does it affect future relationships? 13. Was it a make or break situation? Or was it something else? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-16-the-one-that-got-away-w-a-purim-special/id1479217367?i=1000467594694 Are there other ways to date? - w/ The Modox Matchmakers
Getting setup through friends, online dating, app dating and of course social media dating...hm . Also the differences of growing up in a CoEd Hebrew Academy vs Yeshiva & helping us explore the benefits and challenges. This week's episode which is sponsored by Audible, http://www.audibletrial.com/nobodytalksshidduchim. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-15-are-there-other-ways-to-date-w-modern-orthodox/id1479217367?i=1000466395734 |
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