Conversation do’s and dont’s

The NTS Bros host Blair & Serena, two young daters who have a lot to say. Are there conversations you should avoid? Things that need to be addressed?

1) Serious matters to be discussed
2) Girls are usually more submissive when it comes to expressing there opinion on something (& even guys)
3) I don’t know how to tell you this, but I listen to Goyishe music!! 
4) Avoid Discussing who you dated and why it ended, Especially in the begging
5) Real life preferences like Aliyah, how many kids, etc..
6) Controversial things: Politics
7) If you want to be more frum
8) if you want to be more modern
9) When to compliment the person
10) You look so beautiful
11) There’s an issue in my family I need to tell you about
12) Do you go to Minyan 3 times a day?
13) I don’t daven with a minyan
14) Can you dress better? Have you listened to NTS Ep 21!! Haha
15) I am falling in love with you
16) Finances
17) I hate Rabbis, shadchanim and all ‘em people I shouldn’t maybe be hating BTW
18) I’m not sure if I want to cover my hair
19) Lashon Hara
20) Places, travel and adventure
21) Don’t prolong things
22) Rule breaking and law breaking

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-23-conversation-dos-and-donts/id1479217367?i=1000479175394

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Looking back after it all ended
The podcast crew brings on a married couple, one party who dated for many years and one who dated for a little bit. Now that they are married we discuss how hard dating was and what we can do to try to make it easier. Here are some things we get to...

1) what would they change, What did they like?
2) Are we looking for reasons why the date shouldn’t or didn’t work?
3) Can we persevere when being Shidduch downtrodden?
4) Are we seeing you many Shadchanim?
5) Rabbi Vs. The Shadchanit
6) What was the biggest struggle with Parents
7) what was the easiest of it all?
8) How did they know Vs when they were told
9) Shadchan experience
10) Family experience?
11) Real challenges singles face as relationship continues
12) What separated the person you married from others you dated
13) How to continue to see the light at the end of the tunnel
14) Lowest points of shidduch dating
15) Getting feedback from the shadchan or from the girl directly
16) It might have been inconsiderate, but I didn’t consider that guy to be inconsiderate

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-22-shidduch-system-survivors-the-newlyweds-take/id1479217367?i=1000477648337

21 Are girls judged more harshly for how they dress or don't dress up?
1) What should you avoid wearing?
2) If you wear tights are you really frum?
3) Smartest thing to wear?
4) If you don’t like how they dress?
5) Comfort clothing...what date #?
6) The Flatbush look? 5 Towns look? Out of Towns look?!!
7) When can he wear shorts?
8) When he doesn’t let you know it’s a casual date and you show up in a PradaHow is this
9) what happens to Khakis, Jeans & Pigtails?
10) The "Torah" takes on style attraction and getting dressed up (Tznius)
11) Should fashion attire matter for the resume picture?
12) Is it really a make or break?
13) You find their old instagram with “questionable photos”
14) insecurity if the other person dresses too well
15) When can she lighten up on the Tznius thing

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-21-call-her-hot-chani-when-she-wears-heels-hes-got/id1479217367?i=1000476472243
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​2 more singles join the Shidduch Podcast Crew to respond to the taking a break now, later or never? Are you thinking about Taking a break?

1. Should I take a break?
2. Benefits of taking a break
3. How long should a break be?
4. Wrong reasons for taking a break (partying, stressing over work, stressing over family)
5. When you are on a quarantine break
6. When you're on a cold streak and don't want to call it a break
7. Reviewing resumes during a break
8. Should you tell people you are just not dating now?
9: Does exiting a serious relationship lead you to a break
10. Jumping back in too early
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· Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew: Former Olympic Gymnast Shawn Johnson and NFL player Andrew East sit down to share their most vulnerable sides and open up like they never have before. https://open.spotify.com/show/7aGLm9HYn9mEyVr1FDzrpa?si=bgb4jh_nTyGiIabdk8BD8g

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​https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-20-is-breaking-bad-during-quarantine-taking-break/id1479217367?i=1000474844460

Dr. Rachael Schindler & Therapist Eli Weinstein joins the Shidduch Podcast Crew. Are you thinking about Taking a break?

1. Should I take a break?
2. Benefits of taking a break
3. How long should a break be?
4. Wrong reasons for taking a break (partying, stressing over work, stressing over family)
5. When you are on a quarantine break
6. When you're on a cold streak and don't want to call it a break
7. Reviewing resumes during a break
8. Should you tell people you are just not dating now?
9: Does exiting a serious relationship lead you to a break
10. Jumping back in too early
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https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-19-is-breaking-bad-during-quarantine-taking/id1479217367?i=1000474128182

My best friend’s engaged.... now what?
1. The difference between how guys and girls react and deal with it.
2. Reasons why its hard: can friendship be the same? Being single and healing from a breakup.
3. Letting go even though you love your BFF.
4. Recognizing your own feelings that come with this.
6. Life after they get married / learning how to remain close - is it possible?
7. Feelings on your friend for leaving you alone.
8. Hating their spouse, do you tell them?
9. Handling loneliness.
11. Eating, working or drinkng your way through your feelings.
12. Incorporating your friend and their spouse in your life (3rd wheel syndrome).
13. How involved you are in engagement/wedding plans
14. Family members using your friend as an example.
15. Now she wants to set you up with all her friends. This week's episode is sponsored by Audible http://www.audibletrial.com/NobodyTalksShidduchim
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https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-17-my-best-friend-is-engaged-time-to-social/id1479217367?i=1000468917177

1. What does it mean?
2. Is it a real thing or a nice idea we hold on too
2b. Reasons for the one that got away (why it happened)
3. What you could’ve done to save it
4. Reflecting on it
5. Any Regrets
6. Were you yourself
7. Seeking outside help
8. What would you tell them if you had a second chance
9. Going back to it (kinda ties in with revisiting)
10. Does it occur more or less when doing shidduchim 
11. How to get past it, is it possible?
12. Does it affect future relationships?
13. Was it a make or break situation? Or was it something else?
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https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-16-the-one-that-got-away-w-a-purim-special/id1479217367?i=1000467594694

Are there other ways to date? - w/ The Modox Matchmakers
Getting setup through friends, online dating, app dating and of course social media dating...hm .
Also the differences of growing up in a CoEd Hebrew Academy vs Yeshiva & helping us explore the benefits and challenges. This week's episode which is sponsored by Audible, http://www.audibletrial.com/nobodytalksshidduchim.

​https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-15-are-there-other-ways-to-date-w-modern-orthodox/id1479217367?i=1000466395734

In today's episode we discuss who has it tougher in shidduchim the guys or the girls?
We cover many different areas where the girls have it tougher including break ups, resumes, and the emotional aspect of dating. 
Also debated are some of the challenges for guys when it comes to the logistics of dating, which we discuss with our callers in a humorous and thoughtful way. 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-14-guys-vs-girls-who-has-it-tougher-in-shidduchim/id1479217367?i=1000465026904